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ADVERSITY
A daughter complained to her father about her life and how things were
so hard for her.  She did not know how she was going to make it, and
wanted to give up.  She was tired of fighting and struggling.  It
seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen.  He filled three pots with
water and placed each on a high fire.  Soon the pots came to a boil.
In one he placed carrots.
In the second he placed eggs.
And in the last he placed ground coffee beans.
He let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

The daughter impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.  In
about 20 minutes he turned off the burners.  He fished the carrots
out and placed them in a bowl.  He pulled the eggs out and placed
them in a bowl.  Then he ladled the coffee out and placed it in a mug. 
Turning to her, he asked, "Darling, what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

He brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots.  She did,
and noted that they were soft.  He then asked her to take an egg
and break it.  After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-
boiled egg.  Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee.  She smiled
as she smelled its rich aroma and tasted it.

She humbly asked, "What does it mean, father?"

He explained that each of them had faced the same adversity,
boiling water, but each reacted differently.  The carrot went in
strong, hard, and unrelenting.  But after being subjected to
the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile, its think outer shell had protected
its liquid interior.  But after sitting in the boiling water,
its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however.  After they were
in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you," he asked his daughter.  "When adversity knocks on your
door, how do you respond?  Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"
How about YOU?  Are you the carrot, that seems hard, but with
pain and adversity do you wilt and become soft and lose your strength?

Are you the egg, which starts off with a malleable heart?  Were
you a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a divorce, or a
layoff have you become hardened and stiff?  Your shell looks the
same, but are you bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and heart?

Or are you the coffee bean?  The bean changes the hot water, the
thing that is bringing the pain, to its peak flavor when it reaches 100
degrees C.  When the water gets the hottest, it just tastes better.

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you
get better and make things better around you.

How do you handle adversity?  Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?
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